A few weeks ago, my boyfriend and I moved in together. Here are some things that I’ve experienced since I’ve moved in with him.
- Travel times are significantly decreased. Now, this might not be too big of a deal for those of you with vehicles, but as a proud rider of the NYC Metropolitan Transit Authority, I can tell you that the less time spent on the train, the better. Brooklyn has a lot of really good connections between itself and Manhattan, but as far as north-to-south travel within the borough is concerned, things can be less than ideal. Even though we were only living about four and a half miles away from each other, the time it took to make it from Point A (my place) to Point B (his place) could take anywhere from 40 to 55 minutes, depending on whether or not you just miss not only your first train, but your transfer as well. Being able to just come home and have him around saves me lots of time.
- Things are a lot funnier. My boyfriend is full of jokes. Granted, most of them are really bad jokes, but I like them (hence the whole dating-and-wanting-to-move-in thing). Even if we’re just sitting down to breakfast together, and I’m blearily stuffing granola cereal into my face and hating the fact that I have to go to work, he’ll make some silly remark that brightens my attitude and makes me feel like I can, in fact, make it through the day. I like hearing him say things to the dishes, make weird noises, and generally be a strange, funny guy.
- You always get to hang out. We’re both very busy people, and in the past our packed schedules made it difficult to see each other as much as we wanted. We tried to cram in one “date night” a week (usually us being exhausted in the same apartment and watching Netflix) in between work, gym sessions, and all the little chores that take twice as long when you live in the city (ex: laundry). Now that we’re living together, we get to see each other all the time.
- You learn to compromise. As the song goes, you can’t always get what you want. Some things we’ve compromised on is our neighborhood, the train line we live off of, whether or not we have roommates, etc. While most of these compromises aren’t idly made (in fact, most of these compromises were monetarily-motivated), in our case it took one person to be more… willing… to point out reality and show what we really could afford vs. what would be nice but just isn’t right for us at the moment.
- You get to fall asleep and wake up together. Every night I get to fall asleep next to the person I want to see most and start my day with him as well. And that’s a great feeling.
I realize this is quite a rosy picture of cohabitation, and I attribute it to two main things – first, that my boyfriend and I have really good communication with each other and try to let each other know when the other person is annoying/hurting us, and two, that it’s only been about a month. However, I’m looking forward to what the future has in store for us together.